2: Sangat Singh (Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia), April 16, 2010, 2:22 PM.

My closest bosom friend, Jugraj - later (Col. Kahai) was married in 1960. Our turn came in 1961 and naturally he was the best man. At that time he was posted in Delhi and we stayed with them for a couple of days before leaving for Malaysia. As an example of married bliss, they started some innocuous argument, and his Shrimati Tital (her pet name) was not going to give up her lead positon. After about 10 minutes of healthy banter, Jugraj went into a silent mode. In warfare, a one-sided position is just not tenable and spoils the fun. It had the portent to put Sun Tzu's 'Art of War' into a revised edition. "Now, Jugi, what have you to say? Looks like you have run out of your clever arguments!" "No, Tital, I just wanted you to have the last word!" This was an early lesson to learn and I have since kept quiet - (except, I am told, that I sometimes compensate by talking in my sleep!) This was Rule No.1 for a sustainable happy marriage.