Betrayal Of Its Most Innocent: GEORGE THOMAS
Why India Has Been Declared The Worst Country
"It's a social ill that continues to shame India. Nearly 45% of women in the country, aged between 20 and 24, are married off before they reach 18, the legal age to marry. What's worse, the number is over 50% in eight states.
61% of women in Jharkhand were married off before 18, the number stood
at 60% in Bihar, 57% in Rajasthan, 55% in Andhra Pradesh, 53% each in
Madhya Pradesh, Uttar Pradesh and West Bengal and 52% in Chhattisgarh." [Kounteya Sinha, The Times of India]
Every year, millions of Hindu girls in India are married as children. In some instances the brides are no more than 4 or 5 years old.
Child marriages are techincally illegal in India, but the practice is flourishing.
Rajasthan is the epicenter of India's child marriage. More than half of girls born in the area become child brides before the age of 15.
"The life of a child bride is very sad," said Prem Dabi, who's studying the impact of child marriage on Hindu society.
"The moment she gets married, from a physical, mental, emotional and educational perspective, her life becomes very challenging," Dabi added.
Most of India's rural poor live on less than a dollar a day. Marrying off a daughter means one less mouth to feed.
Dinesh Shur is the village Hindu priest.
"Girls are seen as a liability and burden," Shur explained. "The girl's family is responsible for the paying [of] the dowry, so the longer they wait to get the girl married off, the more they'll have to pay the future-in-laws."
April and May are popular months for marriages in Rajasthan. Villages will hold thousands of ceremonies, the majority of them between minors.
"Every year you'll see the images of parents holding their children, sometimes as young as 4 or 5 years old, in their lap as they get married," Dabi said.
India first introduced laws against child marriage in 1929, and back then the legal age for marriage was set at 12. It was eventually increased to 18 years old in 1978.
To evade the law, families often perform marriages in secret, usually late at night. Outsiders are rarely allowed to attend these ceremonies, let alone film them.
Rajma Patel's parents made an exception, giving CBN News permission to film their son the night before his wedding.
"I am becoming a man tomorrow," Patel laughed on camera.
His parents insist that he's 21. But his friends told CBN News off camera that he's only 10. His young face covered in traditional makeup, he wears a special suit with flashing colored lights.
"I want the youngsters in the village to follow my example," Patel said.
The entire village spends the night before the wedding drinking and dancing.
"Under the influence of alcohol, these dance rituals
become sexually charged and often you'll see young boys and girls
joining in. It becomes a place to find potential child suitors," pastor
Loss of Innocence
CBN News wasn't allowed to film Patel's bride, who is said to be no more than 8 or 9 years old.
"The parents always lie about the child's age," Dabi said. "Families know what they are doing is not right but because of culture and economic reasons, the parents will marry their children off at a young age."
CBN News was allowed to film Veena's wedding. Her wedding took place during the day, which is very uncommon.
"We've been preparing for this wedding for nearly a year," Veena's father Kehra said. "I've invited the entire village to come for this happy occasion."
Veena tried to look her best as she prepared to teeter down the aisle of her house. But she was anything but happy.
In between combing her hair and putting on jewelry, she sobbed uncontrollably. The family tried to console her. When CBN News asked her why she's crying, she refused to talk.
"She has no idea what it means to be a wife, how to take care of a family. But because this has been forced upon her, she has to go along with it. I think she's a little scared," Veena's aunt Jeetha said.
Veena's family insisted she's 18. But she looks 7 or 8.
"I also got married when I was very young. She will adjust," Jeetha said.
No End in Sight
India is only one of many countries where child marriage is thriving. Each year, some 10 million Hindu girls are married before they turn 18.
"The girl is married then moves in with her husband's family," Dabi explained. "She's not allowed to go to school to get an education. As soon as she reaches puberty she's expected to have children."
And the ripple effects of these young marriages are devastating. Research shows that girl brides are more likely to
- Die during pregnancy and childbirth
- Lose her child before it's born
- Be infected with HIV
- Have three or more births, and
- Undergo multiple abortions.
In the village, Veena's soon-to-be husband, Darji Damor, arrived in a bus with his family. Wearing a special crown with flashing lights, he joined a procession of villagers making their way to the bride's home.
His face was partially covered by a multi-colored mask worn until the ceremony is over. His family also insisted he's old enough to legally marry.
"I am ready to be a husband," Darji said.
Weak and exhausted from her emotional preparation, Venna had to be carried down the aisle by her father.
She sobbed through the two-hour ceremony.
"It is heartbreaking to watch," Dinesh said. "These are children, little children getting married."
[Courtesy: CBN. Edited for sikhchic.com.]
June 17, 2012
Conversation about this article
1: Baldev Singh (Bradford, United Kingdom), June 17, 2012, 10:26 AM.
I am told by educated people I meet on my regular trips to India that "all that matters is money and a male child!" That's pretty much it! In reality, no God, no education, no morality, no ethics, no compassion, no mercy. That just about sums up Indian and Hindu society for you.
2: Sangat Singh (Kuala Lumpur. Malaysia), June 18, 2012, 9:19 AM.
This is a sad commentary on a country which remains caught in a vicious vortex due to lack of education and abject poverty, where girls are considered a liability and burden. This problem is not just confined to India. It is also the greatest anomaly that produces barbarous customs. Elsewhere on sikhchic.com we read of our own Mother-Teresa-like figure who has single-handedly taken upon herself to protect and nurture the homeless and destitute girls. Here again, Indian bureaucracy has a problem with it. No matter, Prakash Kaur ji show real 'prakash'. "The hands that help are holier than the lips that just pray". We are rich only through what we give and poor what we refuse to give. Perhaps United Sikhs may want to turn the turrets in this direction. It may be less visible than launching Olympics Langar but seeing all of Waheguru's Darbar would certainly have a robe of honour for them. "jithai nich samali-an tithai nadar teri bakshsis" (GGS:15.9] - 'In that place where the lowly are cared for, there rain the blessings of Your glance of grace."
3: A.J. Singh (San Francisco, California, U.S.A.), June 18, 2012, 12:59 PM.
India as a country is teetering close to moral bankruptcy. The lack of political will has translated into ineffective laws with a non-uniform civil code that will bifurcate the nation further. Nowhere is it more apparent than in a recent High Court ruling that 15 year old girls (Muslim) can be married off. Though this piece of news went relatively unnoticed, it will have enormous repercussions in the moral fabric of a nation we call India. So Hindu and Muslims of India, both are immersed in crimes against their own daughters. Please see: http://articles.timesofindia.indiatimes.com/2012-06-05/india/32055325_1_muslim-girl-mohammedan-law-minor-daughter
4: N. Singh (Canada), June 18, 2012, 4:51 PM.
S. Sangat Singh ji: I agree with most of what you say. However, I would question your statement that this is a project that United Sikhs should take on. What can the United Sikhs do that hasn't been done before for Hindu India? All the blood of the shaheeds has yet to leave a dent in their mentality or their condition. Do they not believe in helping themselves? Where is their intelligentia? Their billionaires? Are there no 'lowly' people in Africa, or the US? Why don't we turn our attention to them? At least they won't reward us with more pogroms and 'anti Sikh propaganda'. There is a saying in Punjabi which, loosely translated, goes: "They will never consider us as their 'saak' (blood-relatives); no matter what we do, we will always be the 'other' for them?"